About Me

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How’s it going? Thank you for reading my blog, and for being curious about what kind of person is writing it! I’m a 40+ year old wife to my first husband, and mother to three mostly grown kids. My husband Joe and I have been married for a little over 20 years.  We decided when we got married to live on his income solely while I stayed home and raised our kids.  We’ve depended and thrived on this lifestyle, and so far the kids are doing okay so I’m thinking that we made a pretty good choice.

As a child of my parents, I suffer from constant guilt.  (I’m not alone in this, am I? Hey, are we related?) I’ve always felt guilty that I wasn’t bringing money into the household too.  As the kids got older, I knew that the day was coming: time to get a job.  Or finish that degree and get a job. Problem is, I still do not know what I want to do with my life!

My very wise friend Steph finally told me to shut up and just do what I’ve been doing. Do Joe and I NEED extra money? Not exactly. Do you like being at home when your kids and your husband are there too? More importantly, do you like being there when the house is empty? Yes and yes. Are there things that you’ve always wanted to do but never had the time because you were, duh! taking care of kids? YES! Steph works as a high school teacher and she relishes her summer “stay-at-home mom” time. She told me to take advantage of the fact that I don’t have to wait until summer to enjoy the gifts of my life. If Joe doesn’t care, why should I? Epiphany: I shouldn’t feel guilty because I’m not miserable.

With more consideration, I presented this amazing idea to Joe: If I were to work outside the home, we would spend even more money.  We would eat out more, I would definitely hire someone to clean the house, I’d spend more money on gas and clothes, etc. How about if I continue staying at home, and I’ll see how much money we can SAVE by doing as much as I can myself? By being frugal, creative, and making things from scratch when it is feasible, logical, and efficient?  I’m proposing more at-home, industrious activities using the stuff we already have. Joe’s response? “Promise to make more beer? Soon, please.”

UPDATE August 30th, 2014: I’m still in shock about how this happened, but I find myself employed. See the “Time for Something New” post. The focus of my blog will be changing, although I’m uncertain about the details.  I’m still focussed on “being frugal, creative, and making things from scratch when it is feasible, logical, and efficient.” We will see how this pans out as I will be spending much less time at home!

UPDAT June 24th, 2016: We have hired someone to clean the house. Best money I have ever spent.

6 Comments

  1. Alyssa said:

    I love, love, love this!

    May 30, 2014
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    • Tina DeSoto said:

      And I love love love you!!

      May 31, 2014
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  2. said:

    I concur…more beer. Ok, fine,,,bread too.

    May 30, 2014
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    • Tina DeSoto said:

      Western civilization was built upon beer and bread. You’re a wise man, Case.

      May 31, 2014
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  3. Steph said:

    You are brilliant at creating, cooking, crafting…some of your many gifts.
    And I can’t wait to see what else you will create.

    May 31, 2014
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    • Tina DeSoto said:

      Thank you Steph! I can’t wait for you to be on summer break. Just knowing that your brain and heart get to take a vacay from school makes me happy! See you soon :)

      May 31, 2014
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